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It's been just over two months now and as my Instagram followers would know, I've been making note of a few reality checks you get as a newlywed. It's been a great journey and there's no end to the lessons I am learning, but for now, let me share the first ten:
#1 - You buy bigger jars of stuff.
No longer do I feel like buying the big jar is wasteful. Grocery shopping for two instead of one is easier and more economical.
#2 - I had better things to do than post on Facebook.
For the first few weeks of married life I pretty much didn't post anything. What's worse is that I actually tried... I even stared at a the blank status update field and tried to think of something worth posting. Truth is, my actual reality was so good I didn't care much for my social media world.
#3 - Some moments aren't very glamorous.
This picture is from bed-assembly-day. Darren and I would be AWFUL on one of those reality TV shows. We have A LOT to learn about working together on practical projects...
#4 - There are some perks. Like a new gigantic bed.
Other perks include: having a team mate for the rest of your life, someone to cuddle on the couch, all the extra 'stuff' you get (furniture, kitchen utensils etc)...
#5 - You look at your wedding photos ALL the time.
I was ridiculously excited the day we got our professional photos back. Not only did they look amazing, but our incredible photographer managed to tell the story and reflect every feeling of the day - that every time I look through them I get to revisit all of that!
#6 - You get some very cool presents!
For example, picture here is the Kre-o Transformers set and very cute little teapot we got from one of our good friends - awesome!!
#7 - You count your time married like a newborn baby - in weeks and months til you hit one year.
So until we reach the first of our yearly anniversaries, I will probably post overly romantic status tributes to my husband of 'x' months. (Sorry...)
#8 - You get very excited over a piece of paper.
For an administratively minded person like me, receiving this in the mail felt amazing. Finally I could legally change my name on stuff and sort out my personal administration!
#9 - You develop new skills.
I am now the resident scorer at my husbands social basketball. (Yes, I know it won't last... In fact, I think it's already fading out...)
#10 - Changing your name is both exciting and challenging.
For 29 years I was a Blesing. Now I'm a Bigg. It's weird. Don't get me wrong, I love it, but I never knew how much of my identity I had wrapped up in my name until now. They say it takes some adjusting. This is definitely true!
Phewf! And all of that just in the first couple of months! Perhaps I should keep taking notes and post progress reports along the way?
Much love,
Jess (aka Mrs Bigg) xo
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